compliments of the compliment

In 2021, a unique se­ries of stud­ies on the ef­fects of com­pli­ments was pub­lished in Per­son­al­i­ty and So­cial Psy­chol­o­gy Bulletin. 

The first study had par­tic­i­pants go to lo­ca­tions on a col­lege cam­pus and com­pli­ment the fourth per­son of the same gen­der that they encountered. 

Par­tic­i­pants were sur­veyed about their feel­ings about giv­ing com­pli­ments be­fore and af­ter and the peo­ple they com­pli­ment­ed were sur­veyed about their experience. 

The data shows that those com­pli­ments ac­tu­al­ly made com­pli­ment-re­ceivers much hap­pi­er than the com­pli­ment-givers had es­ti­mat­ed. Data also showed that strangers were far less both­ered or an­noyed by be­ing com­pli­ment­ed by a stranger than the com­pli­ment-givers had es­ti­mat­ed, which is why a lot of us don’t com­pli­ment each other. 

The study also showed that those giv­ing the com­pli­ment also felt in a bet­ter mood af­ter de­liv­er­ing the compliment. 

Oth­er stud­ies link com­pli­ments to im­proved per­for­mances in the work­place and at school as well as in­creased self-es­teem and con­fi­dence. Stud­ies also show that we do not grow in­sen­si­tive to com­pli­ments the more we hear them, so have no fear of over-com­pli­ment­ing the peo­ple in your life. 

Today’s as­sign­ment if you choose to ac­cept it: Com­pli­ment at least three strangers today. 

#The­GreatJoy­Hunt

—an­dru defeye

Flom­mist An­dru De­f­eye is the Guer­ril­la Poet Lau­re­ate of Sacra­men­to. Copy­right © 2022 An­dru Defeye.

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