I think it’s very, very hard for a lot of people – especially kind people who are compassionate and capable of empathy – to accept that sometimes a person, or many people, are just bad, shitty people.
This doesn’t have to mean they have no redeeming qualities, but said qualities aren’t enough to balance out or negate the bad. And what’s even harder for them to accept is that in the vast majority of cases, what this really comes down to is choice.
It’s a hard pill to swallow and it hurts but I’ve found at least for myself that once you get that pill down it makes it a whole hell of a lot easier to really stand up for what you purport to believe in.
I have loudly made it extremely clear that my home and space are safe for my friends who are LGBTQIA+ and/or BIPOC, so if you’re a shithead you better be the best person about hiding it from the entire world and I never ever find out or if I do find out you’re toast. You’re no longer welcome in my home or in my life.
If a friend or family member votes for Trump, I don’t know what else to tell you.
They openly made the choice to vote for a man who said he wants “the kind of generals Hitler had.”
Whatever their reasoning is for doing so is entirely irrelevant; there is no excuse that can be analyzed or workshopped enough to sympathize with or understand why a person would vote for someone like that, and frankly it’s insulting to ask anyone to try.
And if they’re unaware that he said that (or any number of things he’s said) that’s not any better.
Voting from a position of blind ignorance causes just as much harm as voting from a position of intentional malice. Also you’d really have to be under a pretty big rock not to know what’s going on or be exposed whatsoever to his awful hateful rhetoric.
We are on the precipice of fascism and if Tuesday doesn’t go the right way we will topple over the edge. However bad you thought 2016–2020 was will look like nothing in comparison to the next four years.
A lot of people I know who are hardly Trump supporters but who “don’t like politics” and “stay out of politics” and think that is a safe, admirable, or intelligently considered position and who like to say they can “disagree and still be friends” better wake the fuck up.
If you know even one person who is gay, queer, trans, BIPOC, not Christian, an immigrant, has had an abortion … basically anyone who isn’t a straight white Christian male, and you claim to love them and you call them a friend, you owe it to them to get out there and vote.
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And yes, I’m gonna fucking tell you who to vote for here because let’s not pussy foot the fuck around and pretend like there’s even a second option – vote for Kamala Harris.
I take a lot of umbrage with her too, but not voting for her isn’t gonna save a single Palestinian kid. It’s only going to let you pat yourself on the back and feel smug and superior while doing effectively fuck all to actually help the situation in Gaza.
I mean, I don’t like that our options are “prevent fascism here and continue funding genocide” vs “go full fascism and continue funding genocide” but uhhhhh one is obviously preferable over the other and with the fascism version the genocide only gets worse. Anyone remember the Muslim ban?
Like, this sucks, but it’s gonna suck a whole hell of a lot worse if Trump gets elected. I wish our options weren’t “this sucks” and “this really fucking super sucks hard” but I’d really prefer not to live under full throttle fascism.
Also, I’ve watched a lot of “progressives” flip a bitch and go hard into conservatism the second their comfort or privilege feels threatened. Which I know performative progressives love, it’s their favorite pastime.
But we can get back to that later – right now we need to stop full on fascism from happening.
I am not being hyperbolic or embellishing here. It is already happening and if we don’t stop it right now we are totally fucked.
—emily duchaine
Flommist Emily Duchaine lives in the Pacific Northwest. She likes to drink mead, learn about sharks, and listen to the Talking Heads. She pretends to be a professional businesswoman most days. Copyright © 2024 Emily Duchaine.
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