be a good ‘white’ ally

I am so tired of peo­ple of Eu­ro­pean de­scent and some groups of Cau­casian peo­ple talk­ing about oth­er mi­nor­i­ty and eth­nic groups is­sues like it is their own. 

Be sup­port­ive and not dic­tate to oth­ers what their is­sues are. So you come off as ignorant.

And it’s every­one. And I am just tired of it. Every­day it’s some­thing. Or some­one telling me I am ‘white pass­ing’ even though clear­ly I am Hispanic. 

And my head is go­ing to explode.

You know how to be a good ‘white’ ally?

Think of your­self as the hus­band push­ing a shop­ping cart. You didn’t choose the shop­ping list and you’re not choos­ing the gro­ceries. Your job is to fol­low be­hind your spouse as they pick out what is need­ed for the house­hold. You trust they will make all the right de­ci­sions and guide you cor­rect­ly through­out the store. Every now and then throw them a sug­ges­tion to pur­chase a cheap­er item, maybe even ask to buy a snack for your­self. It may not be the health­i­est snack, but hey, it’s a com­pro­mise. But un­der no cir­cum­stances is it your place to cre­ate the shop­ping list or to con­duct the shop, be­cause you suck at it, and will most like­ly just pur­chase a bag of Dori­tos, maybe a few ap­ples, and the wrong milk.

So be the shop­ping cart, not the shop­per. Sup­port and stop hor­ri­bly guiding.
 
 

—aman­da layng martinez

Flom­mist Aman­da Layng Mar­tinez is a graph­ic de­sign­er. She like cats, tea, not wear­ing a bra, pee­ing in pub­lic, and ‘eat­ing as much as I can be­fore I feel full.’ Copy­right © 2017 Aman­da Layng Martinez.

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