I’ve noticed that people love to say “it’s okay to not be okay” until you’re grieving.
And then all of a sudden, everyone wants to find a miracle cure for your sadness. Which kind of ends up making me feel like I shouldn’t still be sad, even though it’s only been one month.
There isn’t a medication I can take, or a support group I can go to that will magically make me stop being sad.
When I signed up for a support group, the leader of it suggested I wait a few months because it’s too soon.
I know people are just trying to be helpful, but I’m pretty sure it’s normal to feel sad after a parent dies.
I’m not just mourning for my mom, I’m mourning for the life I had before she got sick, and I’m mourning the person I used to be before April.
It’s hard to put into words what I’m trying to say, but when you’re grieving it’s almost like you’re being left behind, while everyone else moves on with their lives.
I feel like I can’t quite keep up with everyone, and I know they want me to be happy, so I feel like I have to fake it.
When in reality, I just want someone to sit on the couch with me, and watch The Sopranos, and give me a cookie when I start crying because Jackie had the exact same diagnosis as my mom.
And I wanted to watch a show about gangsters, and now I’m watching a show about cancer.
Anyway, I guess what I’m trying to say is please just be patient with your loved ones who are grieving.
It isn’t just a sadness you can cure by finding distractions. I know we want to “fix” people when they aren’t okay, but sometimes you can’t, and that’s okay.
Just hold their hand and be there for them.
I’m the type of person to be really open about my anxiety, so I guess I am also the type of person to be open about my grief.
—briauna rupert
Flommist Briauna Rupert is made up of 50% anxiety, 50% Salsa Verde Doritos. She also doesn’t get mad, “I just make SIMS of my enemies and lock them in the basement.” Copyright © 2022 Briauna Rupert. Pictured: Léon Spilliaert, Dike at Night, Reflected Lights (cropped), 1908, swiped from.
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