nerve

Can I just real quick say that this hit a nerve …

My cur­rent boyfriend, who is the most lov­ing, most pre­cious, most pa­tient and un­der­stand­ing hu­man be­ing ever, is like this. He has nev­er once matched my tantrums, no mat­ter how pet­ty or se­ri­ous. He lets me ride it out, talks to me, re­minds me he loves me, and hugs me when I’m over it. And that’s AWE­SOME. He makes me gen­uine­ly #SMILE, and not the fake kind. 😉

But you know what’s NOT awesome?

When your (thank­ful­ly ex)partner doesn’t just STOP YOU FROM FEEL­ING YOUR FEEL­INGS, but he also OUT­MATCH­ES YOUR ANGER. He’ll tell you you’re an “un­grate­ful jerk” and “how dare you get an­gry when I’ve spoiled you” and “you’d bet­ter re­think your words and your at­ti­tude or you’re out of this apartment.”

For two years, I was not al­lowed to so much as frown or ex­press dis­sat­is­fac­tion un­der threat of be­ing thrown out into the streets.

If your part­ner does that to you as my ex did to me, RUN. You de­serve bet­ter. You de­serve some­one who’ll love you for all your moods and re­spects you as a think­ing, breath­ing, emot­ing hu­man being.
 
 

—saman­tha costanilla

Flom­mist Saman­tha Costanil­la is a jack-of-all-trades/­mas­ter-of-none who dab­bles in var­i­ous hob­bies such as fiber crafts, po­et­ry, tarot read­ing, learn­ing new lan­guages, and judg­ing sketchy ty­pog­ra­phy in restau­rant menus. She also sur­vived The Snap. Copy­right © 2018 Saman­tha Costanil­la. Im­age: Catana Comics.

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