in the wake of the annual valentine’s moment

A thought occurred
in the day of re­flect­ing upon love’s jour­ney through our lives …

While I’ve been
a gay ‘soloist’ in life much longer than I’ve been mat­ed to another
(a 12 year re­la­tion­ship, two 1–2 year relationships),
and a few dat­ing at­tempts at find­ing ‘that-one-who-just-gets-me-as-I-get-him,’
I can tes­ti­fy here that I much pre­fer shar­ing life with a spe­cial someone. 

Be­cause of the last 15 years,
be­ing single,
alone and ex­haust­ed by the in­ces­sant hook-up cul­ture of gay men,
I’m emo­tion­al­ly ques­tion­ing why I should con­tin­ue want­i­ng some­one to share in a life together. 

Here’s my answer … 

I use the word ‘spe­cial’
in re­gard to be­ing with an­oth­er soul be­cause that’s what it is! 

Spe­cial, and wondrous;
how I can be with an­oth­er spir­it im­mersed in a giv­ing way with each other,
whol­ly present to each oth­er ex­ist­ing in a ‘safe and sa­cred place’ the two of you have made for each other. 

I know the world’s obstacles
be­come op­por­tu­ni­ties to show­case each other’s strengths
when our weak­ness­es are at their most vulnerable. 

There is euphoria
in feel­ings about one’s self and that oth­er who is your cham­pi­on as you are to them.

There isn’t any­thing in life
that can best these shared feelings;
suc­cess­es in oth­er as­pects of life are sweet­er and more profound
when there’s a part­ner at your side to share in them.

—eric ward

Flom­mist Eric Ward is a Hu­man Los An­geli­no (there are oth­er kinds), hu­man­ist, artist, in­dus­tri­al and graph­ic de­sign­er, nov­el­ist, toy in­ven­tor and en­tre­pre­neur. Life-long pur­suit is “What to do with a piece of pa­per?” Copy­right © 2024 Eric Ward.

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